Of course it would. You knew it would. No matter how many books you read or how many blogs and groups you follow or how many friends and family told you HOW it would change, nothing would be able to accurately tell you how though. That you won’t be prepared is not true. Pregnancy by and large gets you ready for the most part: the interrupted sleep, the ache in every body part, the being-polite-even-though-you’re-running-on-empty, even thinking a little harder because you know somehow you’re not as sharp as you used to be. All the added effort you require to still function optimally, you learn to do while pregnant.
What you can’t predict is how you, your partner and this new Little One will fit together in this new unit. Every baby is different. And I do mean every baby. This one cries a lot, that one sleeps a lot, this one can throw the mother of all temper tantrums at 2 months old… and then there is how your personality reacts to your Little One’s personality and how your partner’s will fit too and how that dynamic will change your relationship with your partner…the list goes on. The best is, from one week to the next, from one day to the next, your Little One is developing and growing. It seems like you had the hang of it yesterday and today there is something new you have no idea how to handle.
Freaking out yet? Don’t. Because you know what? You’ll be struggling with one part of raising her, but this is the part your partner knows how to handle. He struggles with a different part, but this is a piece of cake to you. And some parts neither of you know what to do, but you have each other and together you can figure it out, even if it means Googling stuff at 2AM.
The point is life is a series of events that teach you to think, breathe, live and love. You can only be there to support and guide your Little One as she goes through the same training. When things feel like they are getting too much to handle, just remember that all you have is this very moment, nothing more and nothing less. All you have is right now. Close your eyes and isolate the instance you are in. If it’s the future weighing you down or the past creeping up on you, cut them away and handle just this moment. I bet you’ll find that where you are right now isn’t hard to handle at all. In fact, it’s actually a blessing.